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You can't be afraid of emotions & vulnerability &

You can't be afraid of emotions & vulnerability & be a masterful guide. ⁣
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If you have these fears you will freeze or avoid bringing your clients where they need to go ⁣
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The common narritive in the world is that emotions are weak, softness is weak, saving face is what "strong people do". ⁣
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But have you ever been in the presence of someone grieving? ⁣
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Or the joy & tears just after a mother births a child? ⁣
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Have you seen someone let out raw rage because of how hurt they have been or how deeply they wanted to protect someone and couldn't? ⁣
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We discount the kind of STRENGTH it takes to be PRESENT with raw emotions, and it is truly profound. ⁣
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But if you have disconnected from your own sensitivity, if you put your emotions in a box, shoved it "over there", or have not learned to regulate your self in the presence of another in a healthy way - you will be triggered when your clients start to FEEL things. ⁣
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If you're going to go deep with your people, you can not be afraid of their depths. ⁣
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And that means you need to get to know your own. ⁣
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There is so much conditioning around emotions.⁣
"Hush, don't make a scene."⁣
"Stop acting like a baby"⁣
"Suck it up, you're embarrassing yourself."⁣
"You're being so crazy" ⁣
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Emotions are just too much, they're ugly, theyre "not alpha", they make you weak. ⁣
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It is crazy that we make something as universal as emotions are shameful, when in actuality they are the very expression & MOVEMENT OF ENERGY that heals us when we are hurt. ⁣
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They're ESSENTIAL. Without them we literally make ourselves sick. Rigid. Grey. Closed. Sick. Disconnected. ⁣
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Imagine for a moment if we shamed being seen drinking water-⁣
"Don't drink in front of them they'll know you're thirsty"⁣
"Be polite, sip in private" ⁣
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This would be insane.⁣
But we do the this with emotion, and the conditioning behind vulnerability is so thick that detangeling it takes time.⁣
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But it is a revolutionary act to do so.⁣
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It takes getting to know your own inner landscape, holding presence there, processing what's been shut off, and then learning to do the same for others too.⁣
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Integrity is not an easy game to play. ⁣ It’s

Integrity is not an easy game to play. ⁣
It’s one of the hardest, and it has the best payoffs.⁣
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It is a game that you play when no one is there, when you are not in front of an audience.⁣
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It is the game you play when you're most triggered and choose to not act out of your wounds.⁣
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It is the game you play with honesty and being true to your word.⁣
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It is the game that is not about what you say, but how your energy & actions match it...
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It is the game you play when it's easier to not have the conversation, but you have it anyway.⁣
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It is the game you play when your inner life aligns with your outer persona.⁣
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𝗡𝗼 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝗶𝘁, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝟭𝟬𝟬 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘁.⁣
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And sweet is the feeling when the test comes, and you have already done your homework.⁣
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I respect & trust someone far more who is able to recognize & admit when they have made a mistake by letting their shadow lead them, spend time quietly course correcting, and continuing to grow

⁣Over someone who deflects, blames, lies shames, and builds deeper walls when they are met with a moment to grow.⁣
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I’ve been both people, because ya know, being terribly human myself it's part of life.
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But for the past 12 years I have lived my life in constant search for the path of self responsibility and it always delivers a fire that burns through my illusions and frees me to be face to face with sweet, beautiful truth.⁣
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No one makes you play the game, but those who play recognize each other,⁣
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And they know themselves in ways that those who don’t, never will.⁣

We're like an invisible team, spread throughout every subculture and aspect of life. We may have opposing opinions but still- we recognize one another.

Come join the game- those who have been playing it expect you to f*ck up sometimes, and we will love you anyway.

Yeah, we will hold you accountable. But one expects perfection- we admire that you're on the path itself

And it's far better then having to hide alone in the shadow of patterns that you could heal much better with a tribe 🤍

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘆...⁣
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I’ve found that it is easy to stand out in the coaching industry even though it is seemingly packed full of people offering the same thing.⁣
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I focus on & teach the art of GOING THERE with myself and with others in a way that I find to be *rare* in this space.⁣
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⚡If you’re teaching about the shadow can you be with me in the depth of my rage without backing down or being scared?⁣
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⚡If you’re teaching about sexuality can you be unflinching & guide me when I unearth the imprints of childhood molestation stuck in my pelvic floor?⁣
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⚡If you’re teaching about the nervous system, can you actually help me get to know my own intimately or are you just giving me a bunch of information that puts me more in my head than in my center?⁣
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⚡If you’re doing emotional processing can you be fully present with me as the unprocessed grief of my parent’s death at age 5 surfaces?⁣
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⚡If you’re teaching about embodiment, can you recognize the subtle cues when I disassociate from my body, guide me through the places that have never felt safe, and help me make a home where it never felt like mine?⁣
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If you can - You will stand out universally - in your marketing, in your presence, in your sessions, and in your reputation (an important thing in this industry)⁣
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👉Leadership is learning how to safely go to the root cause of why all of their other problems exist in their life, their relationships, their bodies, their minds, and their energy and address it from those roots so that it doesn't grow back.
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Leadership is the path of learning how to hold your clients where they need you most,⁣
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The places no one sees, the places they are afraid to go, the places every coach they have had has been overlooked or discounted.⁣

And it takes PRACTICE.

Like Bruce Lee said “I fear the man who has practiced 1 kick 10,000 times over a man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once.”⁣
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"𝙋𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚, 𝙎𝙪𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙥𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡"⁣
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When I first heard this quote I was not a fan.⁣
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I think my response was something like “well Buddha is clearly a masocist”.⁣
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And while you could argue that you kindaaa have to be into pain to be a spiritual initiate,⁣ years later I realized that 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵.⁣
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𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗿𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁.⁣
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𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴.⁣
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But you can’t actually embrace the pain until you take responsibility for the fact that no matter where it came from it lives in you, and as the owner of your life, it is up to you to do something about it.⁣
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𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘄𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿,⁣ & it's so often a thing humanity resists because it is easier to put responsibility elsewhere.⁣
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In fact I'd argue that that is 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 why we find ourselves in an age where there are massive powers who think that they own us - simply because somewhere in the deep unconscious we want someone else to tell us what to do instead of taking the time to come to that responsibility on our own.⁣
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Grounding this out into your daily life- 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘦𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨?⁣
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Be honest with yourself- how often do you get off on...⁣
👀Gossip⁣
👀Blaming⁣
👀Fighting⁣
👀Complaining⁣
👀Condemning⁣
👀Comparing⁣
👀Feeling better than⁣
👀Being more attached to being right than to finding truth⁣
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What is the result of it?⁣
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In my experience in the long term all of this only creates more 𝘀𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗴𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻. Also known as 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨.⁣
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Discernment is of a different nature.. it is the ability to see what is out of integrity & bring alignment to it.⁣
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To feel the pain, process it, embrace and accept it, feel your ego die, & be reborn into new freedom & new insight.⁣
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A worthy game to play right about now

Solving a problem means focusing on finding a solu

Solving a problem means focusing on finding a solution...

It’s easier to fight, judge, or dissociate from the things we don’t like in the world than it is to actually become a living example of what you want to see in the world.

Opposition and contrast help us recognize what we don’t want, which can help us to see what we do.

But if the focus on what we don’t want becomes the only dominant force then we stay stuck in battling vs innovating.

Leaders are the ones who take self responsibility to change where the systems lie inside & outside of us, dismantling them, and creating new ones.

My question for right now is when am I busy battling and complaining about what I don’t like vs creating new ways of being?

Where do I want unity that I am perpetuating divisiveness ?

Where do I want evolution that I am playing out the same patterns that keep me from being open to the next phase of growth or change?

Where do I want solutions where I am solely focused on the problems?

If your energy is >only< focused on fighting the old systems you’re going to be burned out after a while because there is no creative energy available to you.

That means no new insights, perspectives, ideas, or solutions.

We are literally designed to invite and build new systems!!

That's the beautiful thing about human creativity.

So next time you find yourself complaining about something be it your personal life or in the world right now ask yourself -

“how can I come to this with a better solution then what is presently occurring?”

And even if nothing comes, sit with the question, pray about it, contemplate it, be ok with not immediately having an answer ...

it will build new pathways of thought that will take you out of the battle and into new levels of awareness.

“𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗜’𝗺 𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀, 𝗜 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲”⁣
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This was a 1:1 client I had- she was a successful business coach, but was running to challenges with her clients’ processes.⁣
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“Where do you want to get them ?” I asked⁣
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“Into the deeper stuff, the that’s in the way... the stuff they can't get past”⁣
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“So, what do you think is in the way?” I asked⁣
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“I don’t know... like I see where they need to go, but THEY can’t see it. And they won’t go there with me! So they get stuck in their own stories and it’s like I’m battling them to get through. It’s exhausting”⁣
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I laughed “Similar to how you battle 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 when you’re not ‘winning’?”⁣
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“EXACTLY” she groaned “𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 & awful because why am I resenting my clients?!”⁣
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I grinned “like the same way you resent yourself when you can’t force yourself to just make something happen?"
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"Oh.." she responded

The mirror that shows up in our dance with others is profoundly humorous in a dark + twisted kind of way.⁣
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The reason she couldn’t “get there” with her clients was in 2 parts-⁣
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1️⃣ Before me she'd never had a coach who could/would “go there” with HER in her deep heavy stuff.
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2️⃣She wasn't taught the tools to actually go deeper with her client's process.
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𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝘂𝗹𝗮 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗺𝗮𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗵𝗲-⁣
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